« You do not pronounced enough! You let down your sentences purposes! »
I just wanted to tell him to go fuck himself … But I did not. Instead, I began to tell my reply pronouncing the syllables and better taking the sentence to the end.
But why was I so upset?
Maybe because I prefer when I hear the subtext of the situation of the character, its purpose, its obstacles, etc …
But perhaps also because it was true: I needed to do this job.
When someone says something true we do not want to admit is that the ego is hurt. And responds dramatically by saying « it’s true I’m too bad … » or rather « anything, I’m the best, you have not understood … »
(It can be helpful to understand that as a character)
That you’re probably already happened to refuse to admit weaknesses or limitations in certain areas, or criticize you when you internally estimated not to have been up to.
But if you’re already got to admit your difficulties, you could you realize that it relieves and it allows to find other solutions.
Self-acceptance is not contrary to self-improvement. In fact, the best way to really improve and have confidence in yourself is to be able to remain calm over our limitations and weaknesses.
It’s a job that can be done in self-hypnosis, revisiting memories where one is not accepted himself and giving himself the acceptance of which was missed.
This is perfect to be imperfect!
This article in French : Réagir aux critiques